You have probably had a guy change attitude towards you because he suspects you have ‘friend-zoned’ him and you have no idea what he is talking about. All you know is that, this guy professed his feelings for you and that feeling wasn’t mutual even though you two are very good friends. Most guys complain about this particular zone girls put them in, even though the girls themselves don’t know what it is.
What does Friend zone mean?
“Friendzone” is the state in which a guy seeking a romantic relationship with a girl is rejected and told he is preferred as a friend. This happens mostly when the two parties are very good friends and know each other very well, they are always seen together everywhere they go. The most common one is when the two of them were childhood friends.
Guys who get friend-zoned sometimes get salty and change their attitude towards the girl. They believe they are the best qualified to be the girl’s boyfriend because they have known the girl from childhood and know almost everything about the girl. Sometimes these guys who get bounced are the same guys whose shoulders the girls cry on when they have issues with their boyfriends.
Sometimes the guys are to be blamed for the friend-zoning. They are not able to express their interest in the girls earlier, they act like brothers to the girls and therefore the girls see them as such and therefore behave with them as siblings or better still best friends.
Ladies sometimes intentionally put guys on friend zone for some reasons such as;
1. Wanting to enjoy more of his pampering, love, and concern.
The girl won’t accept you but would still want to enjoy attention, care, love, and company. Here you become the secondary person she can run to when she needs them without having to return the favour.
2. Wanting the guy to keep showering them with gifts they would not be accountable for.
This I call “why buy the cow when you get the milk for free”.
But the question is for how long would the guy continue to put up with this behaviour. So a guy does all he can to express his love for you but still does not tell you straight to the face.
These lists of acts done by the girls, give the red flag that you have been friend-zoned.
1. You make the guy your favourite chaperone- where you always tag him along to shopping or running some errands.
2. You are too comfortable with him.
3. You tell him about your crushes and dates.
4. When you go out with him, you bring other friends along.
5. You keep pushing him to other girls.
6. You easily dress in front of him.
7. You make him your crying shoulder.
8. You introduce him to the man you like or boyfriend.
9. You set him up with another girl.
10. Your family only sees him as your mere friend.
These and many more signs, however, how do you guys end up escaping from the friend zone list.
Some guys have the hope that as human we easily change and it is impossible that the girl he likes would never like him back. They do not stop being friends with the lady just because she likes someone else. She may date other guys and they may be mere friends to her now, but they still hold on to what may happen in the future.
Some guys out of anger, pain, or jealousy will just ignore the girl or treat her badly but some just focus on being good friends to her with no hidden agenda.
So far this friend zone might be hurtful to the one been zoned. This doesn’t give the chance to be rude or cause a negative change of attitude to your friend. Try as much as possible to maintain the friendship but find someone else who deserves you to enjoy life with.