In Love With Your Bestfriend
It is true that some beautiful love stories we come across began from true friendship however that does not apply to everyone? Because the truth is we can’t make our friends our partners, but we can make our partners our friends.
So there is no need to follow the trend of getting married to your best friend with the hope of living happily ever after. It is true friendship is built on trust, loyalty and all but how many friends actually stay loyal and are trustworthy. In these times people have their own motives for doing things and are more conscious of what they would be benefiting from that one they are offering or sacrificing.
There is nothing wrong with falling in love with your best friend, it isn’t a crime at all however once you spot the signs you should be ready to deal with the unwanted consequences you are might be face with. Do not forget that marriage is an eternal thing, forever and ever meaning it requires a lot of maturity on your path unlike friendship.
The above-mentioned however should not discourage you though because we all play by different sets of rules which means that it is possible to accomplish all your fantasies.
I know so well that there are things beyond our control in life – like the family we are born into, or the people we become attracted to and fall in love with. Matters of the heart are hardly controllable so once you find yourself fall in love with your best friend, consider the points below:
It is important to understand what is at stake and the things you’d probably lose by allowing this feeling linger. There is actually a chance that your best friend will like you back and there is also the possibility that they would want nothing but friendship.
It is also very important to ask yourself the things you that are moving you to fall in love. Is it that you find her attractive or beautiful, or you feel she’d be the best mother for your kids, or you probably feel she could be the suitable helper for you e.tc. But the question is do you really consider that person as a marriage material or you just being selfish to have him or her all to yourself? Is it worth opening up about how you feel?
The fact that it’s your friend you are crushing on makes your job easy but don’t forget that your friends status of friendship changes into a husband or wife. From observations, do you think your friend would be willing to push the relationship between you two to a different level? Do you think he or she feels the same way about you?
This is a tricky situation when you think about it; they might be cool with being friends but not being more than that. In that case, you have been friend-zoned and the knowledge could put pressure on the relationship in ways that would upset and upstage what you have going.
But whatever their decision is, you have to respect it . Whether you are cool with it or not.
If they are cool with turning the friendship to dating, you’ve had it easy and there’s nothing to worry about there. However, if they aren’t so sold on the idea, though, you’d also have to decide if you want to remain friends with them or not. And it’s cool whatever you decide. Just make up your mind on whether you want to remain friends with them or not.